Being present. As a mother, a wife, a friend, a neighbour. We are all so guilty of keeping our heads down, our eyes and minds busy.
I’m not really one for resolutions. Well, I make them every year, and never manage to stick to them. I’m a procrastinator by nature, so it’s almost like I pick things that are too big, too broad, too vague in hopes I can “sorta” complete them… knowing I won’t. But this year, 2018 I didn’t make any except for on New Year’s Eve as I sat in bed next to my snoozing husband at 9:30pm ready to turn off my light I jotted down a few things I wanted to 'guide' my year.
Be present. Be mindful. The life you always dreamed of is happening right now.
Being present. As a mother, a wife, a friend, a neighbour. We are all so guilty of keeping our heads down, our eyes and minds busy. Constantly. Walking down the street texting a friend and almost walking into someone. Riding the bus and not even looking up once to see the person sitting beside you has changed four times. Missing a smile or giggle of our children because we are so consumed in our devices. Or too busy making dinner. Or too focused on getting it all done ‘in time’. Of always planning the next big thing when we’re forgetting what we had been planning is now right in front of us. I see a lot of people struggling with this, but I am—and was—and will continue to be. It’s inevitable, life is busy. Our world moves so darn quick and we need to keep up.
Our family is big, our schedules are busy. Both my husband and I need to work, so our ‘down time’ is normally spent packing lunches, making meals, cleaning up, doing laundry…. but being busy doesn’t mean you aren’t being present. For us, our struggle has been our phones. We have been trying to leave them in our bedroom away from the family room and kitchen. Away from the kids so during those busy times we hear their giggles, we see their smiles, and heck we even put down the laundry and just go play, sing, dance or cuddle ;)
Being mindful. Of the waste we are creating, of the food we are buying, of the items we are bringing into our home, of the clothes we need, of the way we clean ourselves and our belongings. This one is big. We have always recycled and composted, but I have been way more cognizant lately of what else I can be saving, not buying etc.
Our local dump recycles plastic. Like, all plastic. Plastic mailers, plastic bags of any kind (bread bags, packaging… even the plastic the cheese comes in!). We save them all then once a month or so take all the weird things the road side pick-up doesn’t include and take it all to the dump to be recycled. Wasting food is another big one. I would find myself writing the same things on our grocery list. Wandering the same isles and coming home with the same things. Only to wonder what to cook for dinner. I know I’m not the only one doing this. Not only have I started meal planning & making specific ingredient lists, but I also snack plan too. I can’t live without snacks, just can’t. This helps make sure we have balanced options available when we’re hungry for something, but it’s not quite meal time… ya’know?!
“Be present. Be mindful. The life you always dreamed of is happening right now.”
Then our home… oh yes. I’ve been using the Kon-Mari Method for decluttering our home and it’s been tough! If you haven’t heard of it, look it up and read the book. Such a smart and insightful way to look at how we accumulate … things! But I’ll admit I change my mind with furnishings, clothing and the likes more often than I’d care to admit. So, I’m trying my best and our home is a work in progress. I do have fun scouring used sites for used furniture or decor pieces and then parting with something in our house to change things up. I use the one out one in rule (even if my husband doesn’t think I do!) and it’s been a life (and space!) saver.
We’ve fully switched to green body and home cleaning products, and we are loving it! I make most of our cleaning products and we use natural cleaners for the rest. We love Green Beaver Baby wash and lotion for Cal, and we use the bubble bath for the kids for fun. I love that they’re super affordable & made in Canada. I do love making some of our cleaning products but am happy to leave some of it to the professionals! For now, this works for our family. I’m definitely not opposed to purchasing green cleaning or skin care products, I’m just finding it fun to make some of them right now. Plus, it’s been so much fun making them with the kids! I know it’s a safe activity for them to do, and they are right into measuring and pouring right now, so really, it’s a win-win!
Nope, I’m not a resolution person, but so far 2018 is shaping up to be my best yet and I’m pretty sure it’s all about the mindset you take. For me, it’s not about changing something about myself or my life, it’s about how like Oprah says, “how are you living your best life”?